Boots + Dress = BFF

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I am so not a cowgirl, but I pretend to be for the shoes. Boots and a dress just have to be one of the most adorable combinations in existence. It says, “I’m feminine and like to dress up, but I’m also ready to get down.”

Boots: Marshalls
Dress: Target
Belt: Thrifted
Cardigan: Kenneth Cole via Costco

Fake out peplum

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The peplum trend is everywhere right now, and it’s a trend that I’ve never been a real fan of. On some women it looks amazing, but on others it’s the least flattering thing they can wear. I’m more of the second type of woman. I carry all my weight in my stomach, so I don’t really need to put a big shelf around it.

But, one of the ways you avoid looking like somebody’s mother instead of yourself is by keeping up with the trends. So I want to nod to the current style in a way that works for me. This tunic is loose around the hem, so once I belt it with a knotted shirt, it gives the effect of a peplum, without being so ostentatious that the spot I’m most self conscious of is framed with neon arrows.

Once you pass 30 I think you have to be careful with trends. If you follow them you’ll look hip, but if you are a slave to them you’ll look like a pathetic woman chasing her youth. The trick is to balance the trend with what actually looks good on you.

Shoes: Payless
Jeans: DD’s Discounts
Tunic: Forever 21
Shirt: Target
Necklace: Forever 21

Cropped Sweaters

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The cropped shirt trend is one I was really really hoping wouldn’t catch on. I don’t know that I know a single person who enjoys having their midriff exposed. It’s like next season their going to put out pants with big cutouts right around the saddlebag area.  Let’s show off your most self-conscious area! Wheeeee!

Cropped shirts are particularly hostile to anyone who has carried a baby. Not only do we get to be self-conscious about how big or small our stomach is, but we also get to stress about stretched out skin, scars, and stretchmarks. It’s like the fashion designers are doing everything in their power to tell us moms that we are past our fashionable years.

This sweater was a great find (and cheap! Clearance mojo wins again!). It plays with the cropped trend, but since it’s sheer it looks right that I wear a shirt underneath it. Sometimes our attempts at covering up can draw more attention than if we just went without (and if you’re friends with Mormon girls who wear T-shirts under all their dresses than  you know what I’m talking about), but this actually looks like I’m wearing it the way it was intended to be worn, without flashing any bits I’d rather keep to myself.

Shoes: Target
Skirt: Target
T-shirt: Shades
Sweater: Cotton On
Necklace: I made it
Bracelets: I made two of them, the blue one is from Cotton On

Pattern Mixing for the Cautious

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Four patterns in this outfit. Four! But it doesn’t make your eyes cross or make you wonder if I got dressed in the dark, right? The secret is restraint. Only two colors, small scale patterns, nothing that fights for attention or hits you over the head. Gingham shoes and striped pants are almost the neutrals of patterns, so they are a great background for anything, the print on the shirt is subtle because of the color, and the scarf is tied to just give you the suggestion of a pattern. A way of being on trend without looking like a fashion victim. You’ll look like you’re waiting at the bus stop to pick up your kids, not because you live there.

Shoes: Payless
Pants: Thrifted
Shirt: Target
Scarf: No idea, it’s ancient.

Dressed up Summer

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While I was in Utah I performed at The Porch, a storytelling series in Provo. It was an evening show, in July, in Utah, which presents a few dressing challenges. It will be hot. Super hot. But I still have to look like someone not at a BBQ and worth paying attention to. Luckily I came across these shorts in my closet and they magically were cool both aesthetically and temperature wise.

I forgot I even owned these shorts. Probably because I almost never ever wear shorts and so have little cause to go digging through that pile. Since I wear Mormon underwear, I can’t wear the short shorts that I love, and down to the knee shorts look so frumpy so so fast. I think the fabric and the cut make these shorts somehow not only not frumpy, but downright stage worthy.

Shoes: Payless
Shorts: TJ Maxx
Top: Forever 21
Jacket: H&M

Custom fit

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I have been obsessed with sewing lately. All I want to do is get behind my sewing machine and make some new things to wear. Especially now that I’m wearing skirts so much more often, sewing is fantastic. Skirts have been surprisingly hard for me to find at an affordable price, and when I make them myself I can make it fit my waist exactly. Usually skirts that are at all tight around my waist squeeze my post pregnancy belly to spill over the top. When I make a skirt myself I can cut it so that it hovers around my waist, leaving all my saggy skin alone.

Shoes: Payless
Skirt: I made it
Sweater: Ross
Sunglasses: Target
Bracelet and Earrings: I made it with Imaginisce